Trust

One day earlier this summer, Bailee and I were catching up with a friend that we hadn’t seen in a while. As always, we were discussing the usual things that occupy twenty-year-old minds: school, boys, and our futures.

Though the Lord hasn’t brought us our future husbands yet, He has been faithful in allowing some pretty funny stories to unfold, which make for some fun conversations with our friends LOL. Thankfully, God has also been faithful in providing us with friends who are in the same season of life as us.

As we were discussing how silly it is that we are all still single, I found myself saying, “I’m starting to think I’m just cursed” LOL. To be honest, I don’t know why I said that. I’m actually SO thankful for my singleness, which is a blessing because Lord knows I haven’t always felt this way. Thankfully, the Lord knows me better than I know myself and has saved me from so much shame, sin, and sadness by sparing me from all the teenage relationship drama.

While I brushed off the comment I made, I guess the Lord wanted to speak to it. I was listening to an episode of Call Her Holy (who is surprised), and the host, Nicoletta, said something that really stuck with me. She said: “God is intentional in withholding things.” 

“I see, God,” I said in my spirit. He was putting words to the newfound contentment I have found in my season. I don’t have to worry about my relationship status (or anything else for that matter) because I am the Daughter of the One True King. My Father in Heaven sees history from beginning to end and who knows the heart of each and every person who has ever lived. He knows when/if I will get married and to whom. Furthermore, because I desire a marriage that will make an impact for the Kingdom, I may have to wait a little longer than most, but God will be with me every step of the way.

It’s really easy to only think about yourself when it comes to relationships, but God cares about all His children. He knows who will need to be encouraged by my future relationship, and He’s not willing to give me what I want in the moment because He knows the miracle He will perform one day that will be a testament to many. That miracle may be a beautiful marriage or it may be the fact that I am able to be single and fully content. Only the Lord knows, but I’m so thankful for social media and the ability to have role models from all walks of life. 

This concept can be seen in my friend’s marriage. I literally had nothing to do with her and her future husband's love story, but God allowed them to get engaged last summer, and because of that, Bailee and I have gotten to have a blast shopping for bridesmaids' dresses, planning a wedding shower, going on a bachelorette trip, etc. So, if you’re feeling discouraged in your singleness, just know that the Lord is looking after you, your future husband, your future bridesmaids, your future children, and beyond. He’s too good of a God to ever forget you for even a second. 

It's tempting to write off all boys as dumb, but I don’t think that is what God would have us to do. Yes, most boys our age are still immature, but they are still children of God, and God has good plans for them. If nothing else, they are funny, entertaining, and can teach us girls a little something about living carefree. By God's grace, they will mature into Godly men who protect and provide, and I pray that God will lead two of His best sons to Bailee and I. As much as the world tries to push the narrative that women can do anything men can do, God made us differently for a reason- and a good reason. I’ll talk about the value of lack in a later blog post, but for now, just know that God isn’t punishing you with your season of singleness.  Or as a silly boy once said to me: “it’s not an insult … trust.”

Although this guy didn't mean anything spiritual by this statement (he was reassuring me after stating that “two of you intimidate me” and “one of you is scary enough” LOL), it's actually a pretty profound statement you apply it to your faith. Though it may seem like God is punishing you or "insulting" you by not giving you what you want, that is never His intention. He knows what’s best for you even if it doesn't make sense to you at first. 

To hear more about our perspective on Godly relationships, listen here.

Love,

Breanna Chavez